When we look at successful people, we often assume they must have a huge amount of luck, or they are just made of much stronger stuff than we are.
The truth is success in life is a little of both – but it’s certainly not something you’re born with. It is something you can create and invite into your life. Success is entirely subjective – one person’s measure is not the same as another’s. So, your personal vision of success is the most important part. If you get the skills right, you can do anything with them, no matter whether your ambition is launching your own business, creating a passive income so that you have more time to spend with family or even something extremely specific like learning to sail or how to play Piano in 21 Days. You can achieve it with the following skills…
Learn To Bounce Back
When you fixate on the negative aspects of what you’re trying to do, you are never going to make progress. We are all beginners at something at points in our lives, so don’t be too harsh on yourself if you don’t pick up a new skill instantly. Recognize that becoming successful at something is a talent which comes through practice and challenging work. If you start with self-defeating internal dialogue when you get a setback occur, then you’re setting yourself up for failure. Fixing your mind on bad memories means that you’re practicing feeling that way, and it soon becomes a self-affirming belief. You might start to think you aren’t clever or talented enough and think about giving up, but you must realize that successful people always make mistakes – but they take the lesson from them and move on.
Learn To Set Boundaries
There is a fine line between being good to others and becoming a people pleaser, and it’s especially important for your mental balance that you find that line. A lot of people find it hard to say no, fearing that it will make them disliked, but saying no in a positive way can win you the respect of others. Boundaries are all about control – learning to be in control of your own life and priorities, rather than letting the desires of others unduly influence your actions. This is a skill that will help you in many areas of your life- in relationships, at work and beyond that. Much of it is about learning to turn something down without fear of guilt and in such a way that you won’t cause offence to the person asking.
Learn To Stop Comparing Yourself
Modern life seems almost purpose-built to encourage comparison. With the pressure of social media and the false images of perfection we see on there, it’s extremely easy to feel that somehow, we don’t measure up. But comparison truly is the thief of joy, and it’s also entirely avoidable. Make yourself aware of thoughts you have comparing aspect of your life, personal traits, or situation to other people. Instead of indulging them, challenge yourself. Remind yourself that what you are seeing of other people’s lives isn’t the whole story. Some comparison can be a good thing in limited amounts – if we use it as a force to give us a drive to improve something about our own lives, like studying for a qualification. But be aware of how much you’re going it and your motivations. And if the temptation is too much to resist? You can always download one of those apps that block social media for a while.
Learn How To Talk To Others
Life is all about making connections. Random encounters can often lead to larger things, both in our personal and our professional lives – ang learning how to network is a definite asset for anyone, no matter what they do. Learning to make small talk may seem trivial, but it’s a useful skill, because it opens doors and saves you from feeling awkward at parties and work events. It’s all about asking questions and learning to identify the common ground in any environment. Possessing this life skill will make you feel more confident and how knows where it might lead?
