Having a relationship with someone toxic isn’t easy. You may not be able to just walk away from the relationship either. A toxic person could be a member of your family that you care deeply about and want to help.
Learning to effectively communicate with a toxic person can make certain situations much easier on you and your loved one. Take a look here for some helpful tips.
Create Emotional Distance
This is often easier said than done, especially when the person is someone you love. However, if you can emotionally distance yourself from situations, you’re less likely to be repeatedly hurt by the person’s behavior. If you’re emotionally triggered, you could end up saying something you regret.
When you’re in any situation with a toxic person, it’s important to take a breath before you engage. By thinking before speaking, you can avoid the situation escalating.
Ask For Help
A toxic person may need professional help. Toxicity can arise from a range of different issues, from mental health struggles to alcohol or drug addiction, and many more. Trying to manage your relationship with a toxic person won’t get any easier until the person gets the help needed.
A professional can recommend a variety of options including counseling, alcohol rehab, and lifestyle changes that can make a tremendous difference. Trying to take responsibility for a toxic person will only result in your own exhaustion.
Drop Judgment
For the most part, toxicity is the result of unaddressed struggles. Judging someone too quickly can result in misunderstanding. When you view someone with your ego, it can be easy to miss what they really need.
Try to communicate with the person from a point of love and understanding. You can often communicate with toxic people much more effectively when you remain calm and patient, even in intense situations.
Address Behavior
No matter how calm you are, it’s vital that you address behavioral issues with your loved one. However, it should always be engagement instead of confrontation. Your loved one needs to know how his behavior affects you and the way you feel.
It’s important to ask direct questions and wait patiently for an answer. Be sure to listen without interruption and keep the conversation calm. If either of you feels triggered at any point, end the conversation in favor of keeping the relationship intact.
Walk Away
Do you feel like you’ve tried everything? There may come a point where you need to walk away. If the relationship is taking such a toll on you that you’re not enjoying life anymore or feel like you’re constantly dragged down by the other person, it’s time for a break.
Walking away doesn’t mean giving up but it does mean choosing your health over a toxic situation. This is the best time for someone else to step in with your loved one and seek professional guidance.
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